My wife is addicted to chat rooms!
Ask Gwendolyn Baines
Gwendolyn Baines/NNPA Columnist
Issue date: 1/29/07 Section: Advice
Dear Gwendolyn:
Two months ago I came home and my wife had not cleaned the house or prepared dinner. She became a full-time housewife when she was laid off from her factory assembly job of 22 years. I indicated to her that I saw no reason why chores had not been done. Since being off work she spends every waking hour on the computer. Shortly after that incident, my neighbor told me that my wife and his wife had met someone by going into one of those chat rooms. Last week he filed for divorce.
I told my wife that if she continued to spend her time in chat rooms, I would also leave. Gwendolyn, there are so many women (who were once good women) are breaking up their marriage for some stranger in cyberspace. What advice can you give? I love my wife, but I don't intend to work and be ignored at home. She gives me no affection.
Henry
Dear Henry:
Were you giving her any? Let me tell you this: Most men lose their wife mainly due to lack of attention. However, I must admit that some women have no morals and show no shame for what they do. Although in your situation, your wife is probably suffering from boredom. When a housewife is faced with nothing to do other than being an object for her husband, she can slip into a phase of drinking and doing drugs. Her life is too empty. Because your wife had a job for 22 years, you must help her through this transition. When you spend your life as a factory worker, your skills are only trained to that particular task. Other fields are different - such as a nurse, teacher, executive (lower level or top management.
Once she has a new career, the addiction to Internet surfing should be resolved. When a woman leaves home without a hug and a kiss, or just a sweet whisper in the ear, she's game.
Men make a practice of complimenting a married woman in hopes that her life has much to be desired. But now there is another flirt. Yes, Mr. Cyberspace as he may be called. No, it's not a physical relationship, but to a woman a kind word can make her day. Think about it. In this high technology age, to become engulfed into a man's charm, all she has to do is create a password ---and click.
Got a problem? Don't solve it alone. Write to Gwendolyn Baines at P. O. Box 78246, Nashville, Tenn. 37207-8246. To order books by Gwendolyn Baines, visit her website at www.gwendolynbaines.com. Also, tune in to www.newblackcity.com each Monday at 6 p.m. Eastern/5 p.m. Central time and talk live as John Bordeaux brings Gwendolyn Baines to you. Call (877) 969-2003.
Two months ago I came home and my wife had not cleaned the house or prepared dinner. She became a full-time housewife when she was laid off from her factory assembly job of 22 years. I indicated to her that I saw no reason why chores had not been done. Since being off work she spends every waking hour on the computer. Shortly after that incident, my neighbor told me that my wife and his wife had met someone by going into one of those chat rooms. Last week he filed for divorce.
I told my wife that if she continued to spend her time in chat rooms, I would also leave. Gwendolyn, there are so many women (who were once good women) are breaking up their marriage for some stranger in cyberspace. What advice can you give? I love my wife, but I don't intend to work and be ignored at home. She gives me no affection.
Henry
Dear Henry:
Were you giving her any? Let me tell you this: Most men lose their wife mainly due to lack of attention. However, I must admit that some women have no morals and show no shame for what they do. Although in your situation, your wife is probably suffering from boredom. When a housewife is faced with nothing to do other than being an object for her husband, she can slip into a phase of drinking and doing drugs. Her life is too empty. Because your wife had a job for 22 years, you must help her through this transition. When you spend your life as a factory worker, your skills are only trained to that particular task. Other fields are different - such as a nurse, teacher, executive (lower level or top management.
Once she has a new career, the addiction to Internet surfing should be resolved. When a woman leaves home without a hug and a kiss, or just a sweet whisper in the ear, she's game.
Men make a practice of complimenting a married woman in hopes that her life has much to be desired. But now there is another flirt. Yes, Mr. Cyberspace as he may be called. No, it's not a physical relationship, but to a woman a kind word can make her day. Think about it. In this high technology age, to become engulfed into a man's charm, all she has to do is create a password ---and click.
Got a problem? Don't solve it alone. Write to Gwendolyn Baines at P. O. Box 78246, Nashville, Tenn. 37207-8246. To order books by Gwendolyn Baines, visit her website at www.gwendolynbaines.com. Also, tune in to www.newblackcity.com each Monday at 6 p.m. Eastern/5 p.m. Central time and talk live as John Bordeaux brings Gwendolyn Baines to you. Call (877) 969-2003.
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chatty
posted 10/14/08 @ 10:45 PM EST
not everyone chats to have an affair
Steve
posted 10/21/08 @ 8:57 AM EST
There might be some truth concerning your inference about the husband's role in the problem. However, people who have too much on their hands can get pulled into things they thought would be impossible. (Continued…)
Whoa
posted 2/15/09 @ 9:25 AM EST
Chatroom are extremely anonymous. When things in real life aren't going so well , people resort to chatrooms to make them feel better. This feeling can create some sort of high's . (Continued…)
Mike
posted 4/17/09 @ 12:46 AM EST
It's absurd to place so much blame on the husband for not giving proper attention to the woman. There may be nothing wrong with developing an obsession with anonymous chatting if it's a transitional phase i. (Continued…)
Eric
posted 6/30/09 @ 7:21 AM EST
My wife suddenly want to have a privacy while chatting. I even saw that she is communicating with a guy outside chatroom. I confronted her and she said it's just a friendly chat but we agreed that it will not go outside chatroom. (Continued…)
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